How to Stop Being a Victim
A victim is someone who’s relinquished control over some part of their lives to something or someone else. It can be a partner in a relationship, a family member, an activity or an institution.
You can stop being a victim only when you recognize why you’re letting it happen and explore ways of turning your life around.
7 Steps to Stop Being a Victim
1. Reflect on the past.
Victimization that lasts into adulthood starts in childhood. You had to relinquish control of some things as a kid, but your parents should have helped you ease into independence and responsibility.
2. Examine your present situation.
Explore in what areas of your life you feel like a victim. Family expectations, for instance, can make you feel you don’t have control whenever you’re around them.
3. Be honest about who has control over your life.
You may believe you’re a victim at work, but delve deeply into your relationship with your supervisor and find out how much control she really has over you.
4. Decide what role you play in your own victimization.
Focus on cleansing your mind of helplessness rather than pointing fingers.
5. Prepare to stop being a victim.
Make a list of affirmations like, “I control my life in all things,” and “I’m the only one who can save myself.”
6. Identify aspects of your life where you have freedom.
Meditate on the things that make you feel good and that no one else has a hand in.
7. Imagine yourself free of victimization once and for all.
Before you go to bed every night, close your eyes, relax your muscles and picture exactly the life you want.
Tips and Warnings
- Write about your journey to stop being a victim. Reading these pages over will help you if you start to feel helpless again.
- Creativity is a great way to overcome feelings of victimization. Take up an old interest or learn a new one.
You Might Also Like :: How to Let Go of Guilt